Exactly! Written rules were one thing, everyday reality was another. Even writer Jane Austen mocked James Fordyce's 'Sermons to Young Women' (a popular conduct manual for girls) as being ridiculous and outdated - and that was in 1814, so long before Queen Victoria came along. Also, the idea of a working woman as an abomination was only really applied to a very limited number of women in the upper classes: everyone else not only could, but HAD to work. Women were employed as seamstresses, maids, teachers, cooks, nurses, factory workers, miners, fishmongers, salesgirls, secretaries, farmers and much more. In some places they even unionized. The idea that no respectable woman worked in the Victorian Era is laughable.